 He rode in too fast and wanted sex too soon. She said no. |
 On Life and Love after 50 eNewsletter – March 14, 2025 By Tom Blake Columnist Francine’s refreshing and blunt opinions on senior sex Last week’s column was about seniors having sex too soon and dealing with adult children when in a relationship. I received several responses, one that I particularly enjoyed came from Champ Francine in Florida. Francine wrote, “I’d love to put my 2 cents in…as I normally do. “Having sex too soon or too late doesn’t mean anything, as you are aware, Tom. Falling in love so soon? No. it’s not love. It’s physical attraction. Never to be confused. “Sex in one’s 50s and 60s? Yes, I believe in that, unless two people don’t care that sex is important at any age. I’m in my late 70s and would never date or be in a relationship with a man whose libido doesn’t match mine. I’ve done that, and it doesn’t work for me. “If sex is not important to either party…then you either work through it or end it. Both parties must be happy. I’ve been in some ‘sexless’ relationships and wonder why I stayed at the party so long. It eventually erodes your relationship. Now, conversely, if two people don’t want sex…great. “Now, women who are going through menopause need to visit with their doctor. There are remedies…I find that my friends in their 60s and 70s who don’t like sex, make menopause a great excuse. Maybe they only had one partner and no comparison. “Being a Scorpio like you, I believe that great sex will enhance one’s relationship…there must be chemistry in all areas: communication, values, etc. “We are all looking for love…mostly in the wrong places. I find dating sites horrible. Filled with scammers and/or liars. “Please tell your female readers that if a man only wants sex…he is selfish. If they come on strong, they are liars. Although I’ve had a few great relationships, and we matched immediately. It depends on the person. “One size does not fit all in relationships. Women get closer after sex. Men, or some…pull back…It’s a terrible game. “As far as meeting a new mate’s children… no, a week or a month is too soon to meet someone’s family. “I am almost ready to start my book again.” Tom’s comment: Francine has been a Champ for years. She is a breath of fresh air: Upbeat, smart, and uninhibited. We’ve not met in person but share one thing in common. Both were born on November 11. Regarding Francine’s reference to starting to write her book again, years ago, she mentioned that she was writing a book. I told her I’d be happy to check it out and give her suggestions. She is still working on it. A reminder to Champs. Keep the comments and questions coming. I think what is happening is that there is much stress in the world these days, and people aren’t getting out and about as much. Or maybe it’s just income tax season, and people have other worries to occupy their minds. Or… Ask The Therapist (Debbie Sirkin) will return next week. Please send your questions for her to me by Tuesday. |
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